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About the GrumpyQueen

A.K.A Gatekeeper

I love food, don't deprive me of it.

I'm not Princess, I'm Queen

I can be quite grumpy and when I am, I hide here, my dungeon for reflections, ramblings and ranting.

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Why is the Asian culture like that? Why can we just accept the compliment graciously, with a smile and thank you? Why do we see the need to say things like "no la, I'm not that good..." ? The other person would be obliged to repeat the compliment with something like, "how can you say that? You're good la, not many people can do it..." The person being complimented would then say something like, "no la, actually everyone can do it, I've seen better work, I'm not so good myself." This will go on and on until it's time to go home or someone changes the topic.

If I'm complimenting you, and you say you're not that good, does that say something about my judgement? Are you saying I've got no taste? When you say things like, many people can do it, are you saying that the people who cannot do it, including yours truly, are idiots? Maybe in actual fact, it takes a genius to figure out how to work something and when you say that many people can do it, you're not only discounting the fact that you're smart but also saying that those who can't do it are idiots when they're in fact, normal people who cannot work this damn thing because it requires LOTS of intelligence to do it. If you had to study for donkey years, do your Masters to be able to qualify to do something, why don't you just say so? Then more people can appreciate your work and won't feel bad they don't know how to do what you just did.

See, if people learn to accept compliments graciously, we'd have more time to pay more compliments or find new things to boast about. After all, we work so hard for others to recognise our work and if they don't, we should boast and let the whole world know we exist. :p If we're smart, we're smart. Don't say you're stupid because that'd make normal people look idiotic. If you think you're smart, say so. Even if others think you're a fool, just keep saying you're smart. One day, either they'll all be convinced that you're smart or people smarter than you i.e. normal people get a chance to be geniuses. If a fool is smart, what about normal people?

We're not as bad as we think. Don't keep looking at what you lack, but what you already have. We're never the worst but also never the best. But we can always be the best we can be and learn how to accept compliments from others who think we're good.

28.1.07 8:38 PM

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